**Please welcome my first guest blogger, my dad! A very happy 40th anniversary to him and my mom!**
Ahh!
40 years! To some it would seem a very long time. But for me, having
married to this crown jewel of a partner, forty years seems to have
passed with little more than a blink of my eyes. I can still remember
vividly standing in front of the County Magistrate nervously uttering
the words “I Do”. At that moment, deep down “Something Tell Me I’m Into
Something Good” (Herman’s Hermit ’65). Never in my wildest dreams could I
have imagined that I have actually lucked myself upon the mother lode
of love, care, trust, understanding and support.
Actually,
this bull run of good fortune started a little bit more than 40 years
ago when she went against her family’s wishes (such courage, almost
unheard of in a first generation immigrant family back in the 70’s),
left New York and joined this “punk named Leung”, according to my future
brother-in-law, in Columbia, Mo. With her support, within a very short
time, we were able to prove them wrong.
Over
the better part of the next forty years, while I was out trying to
conquer the world of civil engineering with a new venture in KHAFRA:
“when you flush, think of us” (thanks to Val Bates), she was home
holding down the fort and raising two wonderful children and hardly
needing me to worry about them. AND THEY BOTH TURNED OUT TO BE QUITE
ALRIGHT.
Through
all the career and physical location moves to new and unfamiliar
places, she never once asked questions like “what about my friends, my
neighbors, my bridge club meetings, etc, etc. More than that, her trust,
understanding, and support have made it so much easier for me to
maintain my sanity during stressful times. And there were plenty. When
KHAFRA was young and struggling, several times I had to ask for her
consent to put our resources, including our own house, at risk to help
KHAFRA get over a few humps. She said yes without giving me a nano-ounce
of grief. She didn’t even ask if I was making the right decision. Such
trust, such understanding and such support, it don’t get no better than
that!!
No less
important, during these forty years, she has afforded me the peace and
tranquility of a home life that many men can only dream of while they
are sleeping. We seldom fought, a fact that Kevin claimed to be not
normal. I can count the number of times that we had real serious
disagreements with both hands and still have quite a few fingers to
spare. On the rare occasion that we do “disagree”, the most amazing
thing about her is that by the next morning she has already forgiven and
forgotten.
Nobody
is perfect. Neither she nor I are perfect. That she is not perfect is a
blessing for me, if she were perfect, would anyone believe that I’ll be
the one to have deserved these 40 years of such good fortune? I suspect
NOT! Separately, we are two very imperfect people, but we are perfectly
matched together. Her stubbornness (after all she is an ox by her birth
sign) and lack of mechanical inclinations have perfectly complemented
my “go with the flow” attitude and lack of culinary skills for the past
40 years. She Is Perfect For Me.
So,
on this 40th Anniversary, TO LILLIAN: A Toast to say I LOVE YOU!! A
Great Big Hug and Kiss to thank you for the wonderful forty years past,
and all I wish for is you telling me “WE’VE ONLY JUST BEGUN” (The
Carpenters or, strictly speaking, Paul Williams ’70).
And one final thought, people have often asked me what our secret is: two words: Yes, ma’am.